Listen up ladies: if you were wondering the best way to stay single for the rest of your life, intersectional feminist Lara Witt has the answer.
If you’re used to discussing common values, shared interests and hobbies, family life, get ready to step into what is essentially the Twilight Zone of dating.
In what has got to be the worst dating advice ever posted on the internet, Witt details ten questions you should ask someone on the first date. These ten questions are as follows:
1. Do you believe that Black Lives Matter?
2. What are your thoughts on gender and sexual orientation?
3. How do you work to dismantle sexism and misogyny in your life?
4. What are your thoughts on sex work?
5. Are you a supporter of the BDS movement?
6. What is your understanding of settler colonialism and indigenous rights?
7. Do you think capitalism is exploitative?
8. Can any human be illegal?
9. Do you support Muslim Americans and non-Muslim people from Islamic countries?
10. Does your allyship include disabled folks?
Nothing says romance quite like grilling your date on politics and feminism the very first time you go out with them. Lara Witt, though, stands by her questionnaire, saying, “As a queer femme of color, I keep close relationships with people who go beyond allyship; they’re true accomplices in the fight against white supremacy, queerphobia, and misogyny. If you’re not going to support marginalized folks, then we can’t be friends, let alone date. The personal is political.”
In addition to listing these ten head-scratching questions, Lara takes the time to explain why each one is so fundamentally important to a budding romance. As you might expect, her defense of each question is just as bizarre as the questions themselves.
To make matters worse, this advice comes at a time when women are reporting being less and less happy than they have been in previous years. According to The Guardian “Since the 70s, women in the US and Europe have reported feeling less satisfied with their lives.” This comes in spite of the so-called “advances” of feminism and sexual liberation. In fact, it could be argued that this decrease in happiness comes because of these exact things.
Modern feminists make no apologies about openly teaching that men are evil and that the last thing a woman needs to be happy is a man. Of course, what’s been true since the beginning of time is that men and women both need each other. There’s nothing wrong with independence regardless of your gender, but to believe that partnership with the opposite sex is outdated and unnecessary for modern people is naive at best and dangerous at worst.
The problem is that advice such as that dolled out by Lara Witt and her ilk is creating more single, unhappy men and women alike. Men are taught to curb their masculinity and soften themselves into beta-male shells of what men used to be, making them undesirable to any woman who is still influenced by eons of biology and evolution (read: all women).
Meanwhile, women are taught to look at all men with distrust and disgust, and to in no way behave in a way that is deemed attractive by the eons of biology and evolution that males are influenced by. The result isn’t exactly perfect matchmaking material, for sure.
To be fair, not all men and women pay any attention to nonsense such as what is spread by Lara Witt. In fact, fewer and fewer women are now identifying as feminist than at any point since the movement started. The problem is that people like Lara Witt still saturate the media, and therefore their influence on our culture remains frighteningly significant.
None of this is to say that it isn’t important for your partner to share your political views, at least to some degree. However, when you adopt radical political views and demand that your partner agree with every one of those views on the very first date, prolonged singleness is the most likely result.
For those who actually hope to find an amazing life partner one day, Lara Witt’s list of ten questions to ask on a first date is best taken as a comedic look at what happens when you take feminism too far. For those few who will actually listen to this advice, we wish you the best of luck.
~ Conservative Zone
not a single women I know would ask questions like that on a first date, let alone any date.